How many of us spend most of our precious life self-sabotaging and self-denying our most authentic selves? How often do you hide from your deepest desires or suppress and stuff away beautiful parts of your being? All too frequently, we deny ourselves and edit our stories to make ourselves sound more put together than we may feel – we sugarcoat or blatantly leave out parts of who we are due to shame or feeling like who we are is not good enough. We ignore and tuck away the parts of ourselves that, if brought into the light with love, make us powerful and radiant. Our stories make us who we…
Emotional Healing
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What I’ve Learned About Leaning Into Radiance
Being authentic is scary. Standing in our radiance is scary because when the light shines, everything is laid bare. Everything is illuminated, and we are raw and beautiful. We live in a world afraid of the light. We live in a world of deflection and deception, comfortable in shadows and hidden spaces. We are told that we must project a particular image to keep everybody safe and happy. Then, when we shine too brightly and illuminate parts of our reality that have long been hidden or avoided, the people around us flinch, making us think our light is something to dim, tuck away, and keep hidden. But the light…
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Masks
As we near Halloween night and prepare to put on our costumes and masks, I am wondering about the masks we wear throughout our lives to hide our truest selves. What does yours look like? What does it feel like? Have you forgotten what you actually look like underneath the facade or do you remove it regularly and take a good long look at who you really are? We take on external identities and learn from a young age who we are supposed to be and, more importantly, who we are not supposed to be. We are taught what is acceptable and what is forbidden. We are taught what to…
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Tuning In
Tuning into your physical senses and honouring what your body needs is a challenging practice, especially in a culture that teaches us that our worth comes from our production. We are taught from a young age that to be good, we must be overstretched, overworked, and worn thin. We need to be constantly growing and doing more – being more. So we fill our time with activities and things. We numb our brains with tv and games. We are not comfortable sitting in stillness with ourselves. We have lost the art of quiet and rest. We push our body to its breaking point and then are frustrated and surprised when it breaks. …
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Save Yourself: Recognizing Toxicity Around You
Do you have a narcissist in your life? Are you continually thrown off balance at the mercy of this person’s emotional state, well-being, or needs? Over the past year, I have learned that many people struggle with narcissitic personalities and energy vampires without even being aware of the problem. Surprisingly, we tend to think that we are the problem in the relationship. We believe we must try harder, be more sociable, do more for them because somehow, our worth is now tied up in their approval. When people call us out or challenge our narrative, we may pause, but we quickly come to this person’s defense. They aren’t that bad; they are simply going…
